Pregnant Teen Covergirl Sends Wrong Message

Jourdan Dunn, one of the teen models on the cover of Teen Vogue reveals she is pregnant in the article inside the magazine. Although she is not visibly pregnant on the cover, one has to wonder why Teen Vogue would use her image. Not to say we need to punish pregnant teen girls, but we certainly need to do all we can to make sure that teen girls don’t get the message that teen  pregnancy is glamorous!

I hope that mothers use the issue as a way to talk openly, honestly, and calmly, about teen sexuality and pregnancy.

Now is a good time to practice your “Detective Listening Skills!” Ask your daughter questions about her views on  teen sex and pregnancy. Stay neutral. Don’t interrupt. Don’t give unasked for advice. Do let her know you respect what she is saying, even if you disagree with it. Do let her know you are there for her!

Every human being is hardwired to “ask”  a question scientists call “The Big Brain Question.”  That question is “Are you there for me?” When we get a “Yes!” for an answer, our brains develop in healthy ways. When we hear a “No!”  too often, our brains can’t grow in optimal ways. That means we won’t have the resources needed to create healthy, happy lives. “Detective Listening” is one of the BEST ways  you can answer your daughter’s “Big Brain Question!” with a “Yes!”  Teen girls who have their “Big Brain Question” answered with “Yes!” from their mothers are more likely to avoid having sex too young.

For more on “Detective Listening Skills” email me. I’m happy to pass on the essential skills you need to become a better listener, and in so doing, become a much more effective parent.

Today’s world calls for new parenting skills. Detective Listening is right at the top!

All best,
Dr. Jenn

email:jennifer@parentingteengirls.com

Phone  914 574 5617

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Dear Dr. Jenn,